by Linda Ikeji
Toke Makinwa has advised Nigerians to stop telling people how to heal from things they have never experienced.
Her advice comes as a number of Nigerians have taken to social media to ask Tonto Dikeh to move on and stop exposing her ex-husband Churchill Olakunle Oladunni.
Toke shared a post with the words: “Please don’t tell people how to heal from something you’ve never been through.”
We are all tested differently, broken differently, our scars fade differently and we heal different. Everyone should be allowed to grieve how they want, when they want and however long they want to. Stop giving expiry dates to the pain you did not endure. If you cannot be kind, say nothing. It’s ok to be quiet, try it sometime, you won’t die. You don’t have to understand everyone’s journey or life’s choices but it’s your duty to respect it. Life visits us all at the end of the day and while you play judge let’s hope when it’s your turn, you remain standing to handle it half as strong or as perfect as you try to claim be.